Who I am
Hello, I'm Jasmine Sterling
I research love.
When Harley passed, my heart cracked open, and so did my understanding of love.
What he’s shown me is that love isn’t bound by time, space or physical form. Through years of extraordinary experiences and deep exploration of grief, neuroscience, relational dynamics, and consciousness… I began asking a different question:
What if love is an organizing force woven into the fabric of reality?
Love Researcher
Studying Relationships, continuing bonds, and the architecture of love.
Author
Translating those discoveries into books, essays, stories, and field notes.
Student of Cats
My greatest teachers have always had whiskers.
The Question That Kept Finding Me
If love has structure... how do we build it to last?
From the moment Harley left his body, I could feel the love was too big to simply fade away. My question became: Where do I put it? How do I let it land so it can continue to grow?
That question led me through grief—which turned out to be a doorway, not a destination. Then into continuing bonds, quantum physics, consciousness research, and the science of relationship itself. Through all of it, Harley kept leading me back to the same place.
Love.
Trust, presence, and devotion are the conditions that allow relationship to organize.
Coherence is the resulting state of organized relationship.
A Soul Braid is the continuing architecture that emerges from that coherence, through which love continues to create.
It turns out I’ve been learning different pieces of this my entire life. And who’d been teaching me all along?
Seven cats.
Meet The Feline Council
Seven Archetypes— One Continuing Bond
I thought I was writing about cats.
The cats had other ideas.
Specifically: seven of them, fully organized, each with a designated role, an archetype,
and absolutely no intention of being described as merely “cats.”
“We’re a council.”
Who was I to argue?
HARLEY
The Lover
MIA
The JOYFULL
MISS C
The mirror
EBONN
The sage
Samantha
The guardian
peter
The healer
MaggieMay
The coductor
LOVE CONTINUES
MaggieMay was sent to me Jan. 2025 to continue the council from the earthly side.
Want to know how MaggieMay met Rod Stewart? Read about it in Field Notes.
HARLEY
The Lover
MIA
The JOYFULL
MISS C
The MIRRIor
EBONN
The SAGE
MAGGIEMAY
The CONDUCTOR
LOVE CONTINUES
Harley’s work here wasn’t finished.
MaggieMay arrived in January 2025 to continue the Council from the earthly side.
She wasn’t sent to replace anyone.
She arrived to prove that love never stops creating.
Want to know how MaggieMay met Rod Stewart?
MaggieMay —
Love, Still Arriving
I thought Harley had taught me everything there was to know about love… then MaggieMay walked through my door.
She reminded me that love never asks us to replace what we’ve lost. It simply asks whether our hearts are still willing to open. She didn’t come to take Harley’s place. She came to reveal that love had never stopped arriving.
Every day, MaggieMay reminds me that relationships continue to transform us, that new doorways can open without closing the old ones, and that every deeply loved companion leaves us more capable of love than before.
Her arrival was the grandest, most synchronized, and magical unfolding I’ve ever witnessed—and it continues to this day. She reminds me that home is always finding new ways to arrive.
Read how MaggieMay met Rod Stewart…
MIA
THE JOYFUL
MIA — The Joyful
Mia continues to remind me that joy is one of love's purest expressions. Through her unforgettable dream visit, she revealed a joy so complete it changed my reality. She reminds me that joy is what love feels like when it's free.
Read Mia's full story
HARLEY
THE LOVER
HARLEY — The Lover
The one who shows me love creates
MISSC
TRUTH- The one who reflects the truth we're ready to see.
MISSC — The Mirror
MissC continues to reveal that authenticity begins with the courage to stop apologizing for who you are. Her unwavering knowingness reminds me that our truest voice doesn't need permission—it simply needs to be lived.
Read MissC's full story
EBON
SERVICE- The one who teaches through selfless service.
EBON — The Sacred Servant
Ebon reveals how love's expression is often selfless. His extraordinary courage, and willingness to place love above suffering continue to shape my heart's work. He also reminds me that the deepest bonds don't need to be loud to be indelible.
Read Ebon's full story
Love Is Home
The Soul Braids Architecture
A Soul Braid is the coherent relational field through which love continues to create. So I’ve discovered.
For much of my life, I thought I was exploring consciousness. Looking back, I’ve come to recognize that I was really exploring the relational nature of life itself. Like most people, I believed I was searching for love. What I eventually came to understand was something far more fundamental.
I was searching for home. And life has an extraordinary way of meeting us where our hearts are most open. For me, that doorway was always cats. For someone else, it may be a child, a lifelong partner, a dear friend, the natural world, a calling, or a season of profound grief and loss. The doorway is different, but the invitation is the same. Because beneath every longing, every heartbreak, and every search is something even more fundamental—the longing to remember who we truly are. And when we do… we remember what home feels like.
Love is home. Relationship is the doorway. Presence, trust, and devotion keep the doorway open. And if love is both the path and the destination, the question is no longer where do we find it? The question becomes: How do we cultivate it?
Over years of observation, I’ve come to recognize three enduring conditions through which love deepens:
Presence is wholehearted availability.
Trust is knowing you’re choosing love—and that love is choosing you.
Devotion is sustained loving attention.
Together, they cultivate the conditions through which love grows, relationships deepen, and home becomes something we no longer seek, but recognize. I didn’t discover these principles in a philosophy book. I recognized them by living them, by paying attention to what made love expand. What made it last.
Through a lifetime of loving cats—and especially through my relationship with Harley—I came to understand that genuine love is not diminished when time, space, or physical form changes. My relationship with Harley continues to unfold through dreams, synchronicities, inner knowing, and moments of unmistakable recognition.
After he passed, I came to understand something even more surprising… Harley became the doorway through which I remembered home. Devotion keeps that doorway open. The relationship changes, but the love we cultivate continues to transform who we are.
Love itself has an extraordinary way of finding where our hearts are most open, gently leading us back to the place we’ve been searching for all along. Everything I write is an exploration of that discovery.
My wish is to offer a language for what your own deepest relationships may already be trying to show you—and to share the remarkable ways that journey has unfolded through mine.
